Problem: My child keeps interrupting others with extra information. He corrects them in front of them and even his peers are telling him to “shut-up.” How can I tell him to curb the amount of information he gives without being unkind?
Solution: We use the word “tether” which means to reign in the learning pattern that you use at a use first level. We tether when we are not able to use our pattern at the volume we’d like. To help your son tether I would suggest telling him following things:
- When you are busy correcting or offering information, this can get in the way of learning from others and being an intentional listener. People talk and discuss with one another for good conversation. When you interrupt it no longer becomes a conversation, it can be a lecture.
- Not everyone wants to hear the extra information. Sometimes people like the basic facts. You can ask, “Would you like to hear more?” And let them decide rather than assuming that they would. Be willing to accept, “No thank you as an answer.”
- If you want to correct someone else, do it in your mind and you can write it down later, or talk with me about it after you have left that group of people.
- Other people have just as much information about the topic as you, it’s important to let them share what they know too.
- Use your precision to write out mini fact books, or create your own web page of facts. Then you can refer them to this information.
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